Do you have a sexual fetish? Even if you’re shaking your head, fetishes are more common than you think, and can involve just about any object or activity you can imagine.
Often, the words kink and fetish are used interchangeably, but they mean distinctly different things. If someone has a fetish, that means that they depend on a typically non-sexual act or object to experience sexual pleasure. A kink, on the other hand, isn’t so much a requirement as a strong preference for sexual behavior outside the norm.
If you already know you have a fetish but haven’t yet embraced it, we’ve put together a few ways for you to explore some of the most common ones. And you certainly don’t have to have a fetish to enjoy the things on this list — they can be new, kinky ways to enrich your pleasure.
What it is: One of the most common fetishes, especially among men. Foot fetishists love touching, kissing and generally worshiping their lovers’ feet. Their sexual preferences might encompass heels and stockings, as well.
How to explore it: You don’t necessarily have to be a fetishist to enjoy the eroticism of a foot massage. Switch up your foreplay by adding a sensual foot rub to your repertoire and see where it takes you.
Voyeurism & Exhibitionism
What it is: These fetishes are essentially two sides of the same coin. Voyeurs get off on watching other people have sex, while exhibitionists enjoy being watched. Pairing the two is a perfect match.
How to explore it: Watching porn together is an accessible way to ease into voyeuristic pleasure. Or if porn’s not your thing, try an intimate striptease, with a strict “look but don’t touch” policy.
What it is: It’s paradox of sex that pain can feel like intense pleasure. There are as many ways to inflict pain as there are pain fetishists, ranging from soft flogging to spanking and intense caning or whipping for hardcore players.
How to explore it: Get a pair of adjustable nipple clamps. Nipples are an erogenous zone, so the pain will be combined with pleasure. Adjustable nipple clamps are the best variety for exploring erotic pain, since you can dial the intensity up or down. Be safe by using the nipple clamps for a maximum of only 30 minutes, and stop if the pain is too intense.
What it is: Restraint also falls under the BDSM umbrella. People with this fetish need to be physically restrained in some way during sex in order to get aroused and have an orgasm, whether by means of hands tied behind the back or elaborate shibori.
How to explore it: Start light. Sensuous, silky sash restraints are easy to slip in and out of, and less intimidating than handcuffs or shackles. Or, you can experiment with physical restraint by lightly holding your partner’s hands above their head or behind their back, before moving on to more intense forms of restraint. (Establish a safe word beforehand!)
Latex & Leather
What it is: Latex (also called rubber) and leather fetishists are aroused when they or their partners wear the aforementioned materials. Latex and leather fetishes have their own subcultures and are common sights at BDSM parties.
How to explore it: Lingerie is another common kink — so mainstream, in fact, that you might not consider it a fetish. But if you need your lover dressed up or require lingerie to get in the mood, you might have one! Try out different materials and see what turns you and your partner on.
Remember to be safe, communicate with your partner and have fun. Embracing your sexual kinks, fetishes and fantasies is one of the most powerful things you can do for your sex life. Our online adult sex shop has a variety of toys that will help you become more creative with your partner. Happy exploring!